When was the last time you were in an interview? Was it for the job you have now? Or were you interviewing someone for a job in your team? When asking the questions, you are curious and want to know more about the individual. What they do, what they can bring to the role, are they even suitable for the role, do they have the right attitude/qualifications/skills etc.
Asking these questions gives you the opportunity to find out about the person you are speaking with. Once your interview is complete, it is hoped you have all the information you need to make an informed decision on whether to hire the individual.
We ask these questions of others, to dig deep and discover, but have you ever interviewed yourself?
What? You may be asking. Why would I need or want to interview myself? Well, you may not have given it much thought, but are there answers you are searching for about you?
We tick along from day to day, getting on with our lives, we don’t often ask ourselves questions about how we are feeling or what we need to make us happy. But we should. We always want to ensure our children or partner or family and friends are happy and will ask them questions to ensure we are fulfilling their happiness as best we can.
But put yourself in the interview chair and ask yourself the following questions, to dig a little deeper and find out what could help you in your life right now and help you strive to a lifetime of happiness.
I know that may sound crazy, but asking the right questions of yourself, will perhaps make you think about yourself in a different way. I think we are so attuned to giving ourselves answers that we want to hear, rather than be truthful. We need to turn that around and say what we are truly thinking, feeling, what we want and what we need. One of the biggest lies we tell ourself is that we are ‘fine’.
So what questions can we ask ourselves to get to the root of our issues and be truthful and put ourselves on the path to a life of personal honesty.
- What am I afraid of saying to myself? Is there something you are hiding from yourself? Are you refusing to admit to yourself that you are not ok? Do you know why you are not speaking your truth? Don’t be afraid to question yourself to get to the bottom of what it is you need or want to say. Say it out loud and be curious. Ask yourself further questions and get the answers from yourself.
- What will happen when I speak my truth? Are you afraid of what will happen if you admit things are not ok? Do you think things will change for the better? Are you worried in case people will treat you differently if you say ‘I am not ok’? Speaking your truth to yourself will help you move forward. It will give you the power to do something to change your life for the better.
- What do I need right now that is missing from my life? Are you avoiding spending time alone as you don’t want to be alone with your thoughts? Do you ned to confront yourself and sit down and write out what you think is missing? Maybe you don’t get time to be on your own as you always have to be there for your kids or your family. You are craving time alone so you can figure out what is missing if you don’t already know.
- What can I do in this moment to help myself? Is there something that will help you right now? Would speaking to a therapist be of value to you. Could you take the first step and make an appointment to chat with your doctor or would writing about how you feel help? You may discover journal writing is exactly what you need to do. Getting things out of your head and down on paper can get you to see what your thoughts are and possibly highlight what you need to do to help.
- When was the last time you asked yourself ‘how are you doing?’ and gave yourself an honest answer? It’s easy to give the stock answer of ‘I’m fine’ but think before you speak. Take a beat and really give a truthful answer to yourself. What have you got to gain by lying to yourself? If you aren’t ok, then you can start to take steps towards making yourself feel better.
Never be afraid to interview yourself and help yourself get to a better place. Spend time writing down or typing answers to the questions and get to know yourself and your truth.
Have a great week. Look after you.
Don’t be afraid to be curious about how you are truly feeling and what you need to help.
Take care, Love Emma xx
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