It’s that spooky time of year when the ghost and ghouls come out to play whilst the witches and cats dance around a cauldron with the pumpkins sitting staring sinisterly out of windows, through doors and in gardens. Whether you subscribe to it or not, Halloween brings a lot of joy to many and jumps and scares to others.
Do you feel like a ghost of your former self? Are you embracing the present day and going with the flow, feeling comfortable with each year passing? Or are you missing those times and who you were back then.
Whilst the last 12 months have whizzed by, the previous 10-20 years have gone by in an instant. Being 20 seemed like yesterday with the adventures and fun a daily occurrence. Now you realise time wont stand still and those precious days are missed.
Are those ghosts of your younger self haunting you? Why do you think this is the case? Lets take a look as possible reasons.
What are you missing? – Is it your youth you are missing and the carefree person you were when you had no responsibilities and could enjoy life wholeheartedly? Or did you feel more alive back then, with the world at your feet and a life waiting to be lived? Unfortunately, being an adult is hard, it is difficult at times, and you really do wish you could go back in time to a more selfish era when it was all about you and decisions included what to wear, what drink you were going to have and what was happening in your favourite tv show.
But unfortunately you can’t go back. You have to embrace your life as it is now. You can bring elements of you back from the past but you won’t be able to recreate your favourite moment in time as it has gone and would never be the same. Think about the elements of your personality you liked from days gone by, how are they showing up today? It is likely similar but you now realise you have grown up and so no longer need the immature part of it.
What’s changed? – Has something happened in your life today for you to crave the ghosts of who you once were? Sometimes life events can make us re-evaluate our lives and make us wish for days gone by. Simpler times. Think about whether your need for reviving these ghosts are a reaction to something that has happened or if it is a genuine want to bring an old buried part of you back as it will bring some good to your life.
Remember we grow up and let go of the parts of us and our personality we no longer need, but sometimes, life does get in the way and we long for the days when we can be our younger self again. Think of things you loved to do in the past, it could be a hobby you gave up and now as you are older you are ready to bring it back into your life and do what you loved.
Is it relevant to now? Is the you now more suited to your lifestyle rather than the person you were years ago? Everyone changes as they get older, we tend to calm down from the craziness of our youth to be a more settled soul, so bringing back a part of you may not serve your life right now.
If you miss being wild and crazy, look at how you can embrace this in the way you live now. Do you want to go out at the weekend more, or be more impulsive? Try and let go of always being so structured in your life, instead of booking 2 weeks off work and knowing where you are going on holiday, why not leave it to the last minute and book a holiday to somewhere you can go that day instead. It might not be as easy to be impulsive and go with the flow, but do it where you can.
Be realistic about who you are now, growing up and growing older doesn’t mean being boring. It’s about finding a good balance of the young you and the needs you have as an adult. Honour who you are now – its ok to be different from who you were, the old you is still in there, its just a more refined version.
Thank you for reading, have a spooktacular week.
Take care, look after you. Love Emma xx
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