Friday night was the UK final of Traitors. We finally got to see who would walk away with the money and it was nail biting and kept us on the edge of our seats to the very end. Do not worry I will not spoil it for you if you have not yet watched it. This was a must see final.
The whole premise of the programme is about deception and trust. A brilliant idea. Navigating the group dynamics to work out who is trustworthy and will have your back to who is going to do what they can to win the money and persuade you they are on your side, when in fact they aren’t. You are watching people accusing others of being deceptive when they aren’t and trustworthy when in fact they are not. It all comes down to who is a ‘traitor’ and who is a ‘faithful’.
A good watch for sure.
All of this got me thinking about applying this to our real life. Who in your life is a faithful who you can wholeheartedly trust and who is a traitor negatively impacting your life?
Lets look a little closer at what each of them would stand for.
Faithful
A faithful is someone who is there for you no matter what is going on in your life. They will be there for the ups and downs and bumps in the road. They are true friends and have your back always. They will not hesitate to tell you if you are doing the wrong thing or voice their opinion. They will be honest with you and you know you can relay on them. Equally you are there for them. It is mutual. It’s a friendship partnership whether you are in a relationship with them or just friends. These are the people you want in your life.
It is likely you have a few close friends or even many that fit into the ‘faithful’ category. These are the people and relationships you want to nurture and cherish.
Traitor
A traitor will be sneaky and untrustworthy, despite coming across as kind and caring. They will always put their own needs ahead of yours and will not be as available for you as you have been for them. They will stab you in the back for their own gain. They will be your friend and enjoy it but it is all about what they get from this relationship rather than it being about mutual trust and respect. They will likely bring you down just to make them look and feel good and they will not always act positively towards you.
They are likely to be the person in your life who is difficult to be around as drama always follows them and nothing is straightforward. You will more than likely give up your time to help them, but this would not be reciprocated. When you need them they will be busy and not looking to help or will help but they will make sure it is for their gain such as ‘you owe me one’.
One thing to remember about traitors is they will always be up to something. You can trust them to be untrustworthy.
Have a look at the friends and relationships you have in your life. Which category do they fall into? Hopefully faithful’s, but if you find you have a traitor or more in your life, it might be time to look at the relationship. If you feel it is generally ok and in the grand scheme of things you are not connected with the person often and aren’t that close, then you might not be too concerned.
If however, they are in your everyday life and you feel it is having a negative impact on you, then perhaps it is time for you to rethink the relationship or dynamic. Relationships are not always easy but it is important they are not toxic and to your detriment. Think about how you want to move forward and make a plan if you need to walk away from the friendship or relationship.
Our friends and family are important to us all, whilst it is likely the majority of us have faithful’s in our lives, we may also have a traitor or two. It is important you recognise who they are and as long as you know to take what they say with a pinch of salt, and keep them at a distance, then you are safeguarding yourself. It is great to have trust in people but some people can’t be trusted, follow your gut as it will help to guide you.
Thank you for reading, have a lovely week and look after you.
Love Emma xx
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