Relationship Qualities

It’s Sunday and we are all still here doing the same thing. But staying safe and well is the main priority so I’m happy to do it. Keep doing what your doing and we will get through this together.

My parents just celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary, we didn’t have the family gathering as planned due to the obvious reason, but we managed to do a party online. Despite it taking around 30 minutes to get everyone into the ‘room’ and have their audio and video working, you know they are of an age where technology alludes them! It was great to see the family together, chatting, raising their glasses to my parents on their remarkable achievement.

Once our lives return to some kind of normality or indeed the new normality, my family will gather and celebrate. We will get together when time allows ‘properly’ in a restaurant, with a cake and some real life hugs! It’s odd to think how different things are at the moment but on their wedding day it would have been different, no mobiles, no computers, no internet, life was different then too. I imagine if you had said to them on their wedding day that in 50 years time, they will be celebrating in the middle of a pandemic and they won’t be able to spend time with their family, but through the magic of a small screen you will be able to see everyone clearly and have a party no matter where we are located, they would have told you, you were mad or looked at you funny! Fifty years in the future is hard to comprehend, who knows what technology will be around in another 50 years!

This impressive feat got me thinking about what’s important in any relationship. Whether you are married or not, relationships take work. There are so many qualities that must come together and each one depends on the partnership. Relationships work differently so there is no magic list of things each person must do to make it a success.

There are too many qualities to take into account to list, but here are some, which I feel are important in my relationship that both myself and Scott must bring. You may disagree and that’s perfectly acceptable, what works for me, might not necessarily work for you.

Love – This has to be number 1! No explanation needed right? Without this it can be difficult to be in a long term relationship or marriage.

Commitment – What I want from a relationship is different to the next person, but to be in a long term relationship requires commitment. You have to want to be there.

Trust – not just being faithful, but not second guessing them. They make you feel like you are the only person for them.

Happiness – Being happy in a relationship – who doesn’t want that! Feeling like sunshine more often than not makes my relationship work for me!

Acceptance – Accepting who our partner is, yes they will have annoying habits but you have to accept them warts and all!

Safe – Feeling safe and protected, not being afraid.

Fun and laughter – You’ve got to have fun in a relationship! It shouldn’t be doom and gloom. Bring on the fun and laugh till your sides hurt and the tears roll down your face!

Honesty – Being able to be honest with your partner, telling them how you feel, when you are upset, when you are mad, when that shirt they wear just isn’t nice!

Communication – You have to talk to your partner, keep talking throughout your relationship. Holding things back or avoiding any issues is only going to cause anger and resentment. Tell them if your having a bad day, open up and be real. Then celebrate the great days too!

Supportive – being your rock and shoulder to lean on is vital. You want them to have your back like you have theirs. Being told to keep pushing on and all will be alright when you want to quit or letting you quit without making you feel like a failure. Being your cheerleader!

Compromise – There are times when you don’t always agree, and you have to compromise to move forward. As long as it’s even and not one sided – be fair and kind.

Whatever kind of marriage or partnership you are in, the qualities of your relationship may have some cross overs with mine. But they are all unique, all important and only you know what makes yours work.

I hope your week is a great one and you all continue to stay safe. Be kind to yourself and others and always look after you!

Love Emma xx😍